"He was real. Honest, sincere, cheerful, very kind, like a child, always smiling. I felt that he needed us. I felt protected, felt his care and attention, warm gentle words, even there in the war, on the phone, he said that he loved us and would soon return... After losing his mate, you die with him. You don’t have the fear of death anymore, and what could be worse than this? Roman made me a happy woman. He was a real man, did everything to make us with Matthew always joyful and happy", says Tetiana recalling her husband, commander of the 128th detached separate mountain infantry brigade Roman Chornobay deceased in Russia-Ukraine war in Donbas, east Ukraine.
The two young people met on Tetiana's Day. That day she received a text message with greetings from an unknown number. "I replied, thanked and asked who that was. Message by message, we began to correspond daily. On March, 8 I heard his voice for the first time, sincere and nice. So we began to speak on the phone. I was in Kharkiv, Roma in Mukacheve. As I learned later, Roman took my phone number from my brother, with whom he served in the Ukrainian Army", says Tetiana.
After the wedding, the young family started to build up their life. First, they lived in a small room of the hostel because Roman started a military career, and then got a small studio apartment. Tetiana says that after the wedding, first, Roman said that he wanted a child. "I said let's wait a bit, because we have just started a family. However, I was very pleased to hear about his enthusiasm for having children. We waited for 2 years. Then we had Matthew. Roman was always there. When I got pregnant, he was so attentive to me and during the childbirth we were together. Then Roman took a month leave to help me with my son. He was cooking, washed diapers, completely took over all duties. Those were the happiest days of my life. I was so happy to have near this amazing and extraordinary man", says the wife of the deceased Ukraine Army soldier.
When the war in the East began, Roman Chornobay packed his ammunition and warned his son and wife that at any moment he could go to the East. "I believed and hoped that he would not be sent there, Roman was a driver. March. April, May, June, he was at home, but all the time he lived at work, but was not sent to war. And on July 21 he went to work and in two hours came back. Even then seeing his face I understood everything", says the wife of the deceased.
The woman said that Roman called almost every day, talking mostly about Matthew, planning the future. "If something happens to me, I love you very much - these words he repeated to me almost all the time during our last conversation on the phone. These words I will always remember", says Tetiana holding back her tears.
Roman Chornobay died in an ambush near the village Logvinove in the northern part of so-called Debaltseve Curve during the transportation of ammunition. By the Ukraine President Decree number 270/2015 of 15 May 2015 for "personal courage and professionalism found in the defence of national sovereignty and territorial integrity of Ukraine, loyalty to the military oath," Roman Chornobay was awarded the Order "For courage» III degree (posthumously). A session of the City Council Mukacheve awarded the hero with the title of honorary citizen.
The state helped the family of the deceased Roman Chornobay by paying compensation. "You know, if not for Matthew, I do not know what would have been with me now. Only Matthew gives strength and understanding that I now have to do everything to make him happy. But all know and understand that if the mother is not happy, the child cannot be happy either. My mood is transferred to him. So I try and really want to be happy, and enjoy life for Roman. For when I meet him, I am not ashamed, because he's happy, if we are here on earth smiling, not crying", says Tetiana Chornobay. Now 7-year-old Matthew studies in the second grade. The boy is growing rapidly, he needs clothes and shoes. Also the boy misses his dad’s love, care, attention and warmth. But the father cannot be replaced. Let's not leave without attention and care the family of the deceased Roman Chornobay: wife Tetiana and son Matthew.
Tetiana Chornobay 4188373027631024 (Raiffeisen Bank "Aval")